Recently, Dan Proft, a well known conservative commentator, political strategist and host of the radio program, AM 560 The Answer, highlighted the new trend of women celebrating their single and childless status.

“52% of women ages 20-39 are now child-free. Do you know what that means? Do you understand what this means? We’re the majority… there are more of us!…

Look how far we’ve come… I couldn’t be happier that women are choosing themselves.”

As a woman in her twenties who is married with a child, this “celebration” of singleness and freedom from children struck me as unnatural and selfish.

First and foremost, from both a biological and biblical design standpoint, the rejection of marriage and motherhood as good and natural callings represents a profound shift away from God’s created order. This worldview has been promoted to generations of young people, and we are now seeing the fruit of this deceptive philosophy become more and more prevalent in our culture. From the beginning of creation, God specifically and intentionally designed men and women to complement one another.

After all, this is why God gave Adam the task of naming the animals (Genesis 2:19-20). It is not a coincidence that Scripture records this task ending in the realization that for Adam, “there was not found a helper fit for him.”

This, as we know, results in God forming Eve out of a rib taken from Adam’s side. And do you remember what Adam’s response to seeing Eve was? Celebration!

“This at last is bone of my bones
    and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman,
    because she was taken out of Man.”

You can almost hear the audible sigh of joyful relief on Adam’s part: finally… a helper that is fit for him.

In Genesis 2:18, we are told

“It is not good that man should be alone…”

God designed men and women for one another. His creation of male and female was intentional, and the institution of marriage reflects His design for companionship, unity, and the continuation of life. Even more profoundly, marriage serves as a picture of the covenant relationship between Jesus Christ and His bride, the Church, as revealed in Ephesians 5.

This “fitness” or mutual compatibility of male and female is not exclusive to Adam and Eve.

It is the design that God intended for societies and families to flourish: a man and a woman in a covenant union with one another for life.

Since the creation of Adam and Eve, marriage between one man and one woman has stood as a testament to God’s beautiful and natural design. Simply put, men and women were created to complement one another—not compete with, replace, or redefine one another. To have a woman balk and resist this design for marriage and children is not only sinful and a corruption of God’s plan for humanity, it is unnatural to our biological makeup.

Another important point: through His institution of marriage, God commanded mankind to “be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:27–28; 9:1, 7; 35:11), in part because “He seeks godly offspring” (Malachi 2:15). Marriage and the family were designed not only for companionship and unity, but also for the blessing of raising future generations who would know and honor the Lord.

Scripture repeatedly presents children as gifts—not obstacles—to a life well lived. Psalm 127:3–5 reminds us that “children are a heritage from the LORD.” A culture that rejects children in the pursuit of personal freedom and self-fulfillment has lost sight of one of God’s greatest blessings.

Finally, this woman’s celebration of her “aloneness” is inherently selfish and narcissistic. It is very apparent that this woman’s goal in life is not only to serve herself, but also to avoid any type of responsibility that may come with marriage and family.

Recently, I had the opportunity to sit down with Christopher Parr, a volunteer at Princeton University on the initiative of “Fidelity Month” replacing so-called “Pride Month.”

In our conversation, which you can find here, we discuss aspects of this “self-love” culture that exalts self-interest over natural and healthy responsibility.

Does getting married and having children limit your personal goals or desires? Yes.

Does getting married and having children challenge you to be sacrificial? Yes.

Are those sacrifices difficult at times? Absolutely. But, as Christian writer Abbie Halberstadt beautifully notes,

“Hard is not the same thing as bad.”

In fact, it is the “hard” things in life that reap the most beautiful rewards.

In truth, I cannot help but feel sorry for this young woman who will never know the joy of having a husband who loves her whole-heartedly, who will never bask in the beauty of baby giggles or sticky fingers, and who will eventually out-live all of her family members.

Being a wife and a mom is the most fulfilling role I have ever had and will ever have.

Living a self-focused life is more than problematic, it is antithetical to what God calls us to. Jesus puts it bluntly in Luke 9:23:

“If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me.”

And then we have these verses to consider:

“It is more blessed to give than to receive.” — Acts 20:35

“For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve…” — Mark 10:45

Scripture teaches the opposite. God created us to love Him, serve others, build relationships, and invest in future generations. A life spent avoiding sacrifice may appear freeing, but it often misses the very blessings God designed sacrifice to produce.

So, if you want my advice? Pursue marriage and family– it will be the best thing you ever do.

To watch the radio clip in its entirety, click here.