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Here’s a surefire way for unmooring society from morality: attach the word “phobia” to any moral proposition you don’t like and voila this moral proposition becomes a neurosis or worse, hatred. This explains the ubiquity of the demagogic term “homophobia” and its equally manipulative stepchild “transphobia.” Rumor has it that it was the charge of “transphobia” leveled at psychiatrist Dr. Keith Ablow by the caterwauling of sexual anarchists that resulted in his first article about Chastity Bono being pulled from the Fox News website shortly after it was posted.
Fortunately, Dr. Ablow is not that easily intimidated. He has written another must-read article that we are republishing here because it’s not only wise but critically important.
He asserts what shouldn’t need assertion, which is that Chastity Bono is not a man, and that children should not watch this season’s Dancing with the Stars because Chastity Bono will be dancing (in her male costume, of course).
From Ablow’s commonsense claim that Chastity Bono is not a man has come the usual paroxysms of outrage, but which proposition is more absurd: Is it more absurd to believe that Chastity Bono suffers from a serious psychological disorder or to believe that Chastity Bono is objectively a man born in a woman’s body and that an elective mastectomy and hormone-doping will make her body match her objectively real self–which resides in her mind?
Ablow’s nearly hysterical critics accuse him “transphobia.” So, let’s get this straight: Ablow himself is experiencing a psychological (and moral disorder) for thinking that a genetic female with female anatomy who believes herself to be male is experiencing a disorder, while a genetic female with female anatomy who amputates her healthy breasts and takes testosterone in order to create the illusion of maleness is the picture of psychological health.
If it’s objectively true that Chastity Bono is actually a psychologically troubled woman, is it hateful or “phobic” to say so?
Please read this excerpt from Dr. Ablow’s important article “Don’t Let Your Kids Watch Chaz Bono On Dancing With the Stars“:
Chaz Bono, the “transsexual” woman who underwent plastic surgery takes male hormones in an effort to appear to be a man, and who asserts she is a man, will appear on the upcoming season of “Dancing with the Stars” according to ABC, the network which airs the show. He will be partnered with a woman.
Casting Chaz Bono on “Dancing with the Stars” is part of Chaz’s victory tour, which has included appearances on talk shows and the release of a book called “Transition.”
I advise parents to not allow their children to watch the episodes in which Chaz appears.
Here’s why: Many of the children who might be watching will be establishing a sense of self which includes, of course, a sexual/gender identity. Some will be girls becoming comfortable with dramatic changes in their bodies. Some will be boys coming to terms with integrating the dawn of manhood with exquisite feelings of vulnerability. Young viewers will include tomboyish girls and sensitive, less stereotypically “masculine” boys. They will also include children who have sustained the losses of loved ones and are wrestling with depression, perhaps wondering who they are absent their deceased mothers or fathers.
The last thing vulnerable children and adolescents need, as they wrestle with the normal process of establishing their identities, is to watch a captive crowd in a studio audience applaud on cue for someone whose search for an identity culminated with the removal of her breasts, the injection of steroids and, perhaps one day soon, the fashioning of a make-shift phallus to replace her vagina.
It is a toxic and unnecessary byproduct of the tragic celebration of transgender surgery that millions of young people who do watch “Dancing with the Stars” will have to ponder this question: Maybe my problems really stem from the fact that I’m a girl inside a boy’s body (or a boy inside a girl’s body). Maybe I’m not a tomboy; I’m just a boy! Maybe I’m not just being bullied because I’m a sensitive, reflective young man interested in flowers, not football. Maybe I’m not just uncertain about my sexuality. Maybe I’m a girl! Maybe all this angst and suffering I’m feeling as I emerge into puberty and pass through it isn’t just because I’m changing, but because I should change completely-and have my breasts removed or my penis amputated!
It would be wrong to think that gender dysphoria cannot be kindled by celebrating those who have undergone sexual reassignment surgery. Human beings do model one another-in terms of emotion, thought and behavior. By broadcasting, applauding and mainstreaming the journey of a very disordered person who endured, and likely will continue to endure, real suffering based on extraordinarily deep psychological problems, we suggest that that journey is a smart-even heroic-one to take.
The truth is that Chaz Bono should be empathized with and treated with dignity. Any contribution he makes to the world should be applauded as it would be for any other person.
But Chaz Bono should not be applauded for asserting she is a man (and goes about trying to look like one) any more than a woman who believes she will be happier without arms, has them removed and then continues to assert that she was right all along-her self-concept was that of a double amputee. Now, all is well.
Chaz Bono should not be applauded any more than someone who, tragically, believes that his species, rather than gender, is what is amiss and asks a plastic surgeon to build him a tail of flesh harvested from his abdomen. If only a plastic surgeon would acquiesce, all would be well.
There are such people, by the way. Do you want them exalted, too, rather than commiserated with? Do you want your children thinking that if they suffer a delusion that they are better off without arms, that that means they should visit a plastic surgeon? Or would you prefer that they burrow to the psychological core of their abnormal psychology with an empathic professional, or two or three-even if that exploration is long and arduous? Would you not prefer that they try every available medication to impact mood, thought and perception before going under the knife?
It would be wrong to think that gender dysphoria-discomfort with one’s gender-must always end either in misery or sexual
reassignment surgery. It can end with coming to terms with deep psychological conflicts that are fueling the gender dysphoria.
“Dancing with the Stars”, starring Chaz Bono, takes the opposite view. It’s position is that Chaz Bono’s chemically and surgically altered appearance is a blessing to us all, a triumph of autonomy and self-possession on par with the triumphs achieved by the heroes of the Civil Rights movement.
That’s very nearly insane. It’s a psychologically destructive myth and can erode our children’s evolving senses of self.
I’m going to take heat for saying all this, by the way. I already have for making similar statements in the past. So be it. I would rather be the one shouting “The Emperor has no clothes!” than one of the happy-go-lucky villagers applauding the tragic parade.
Chaz Bono didn’t come to me for help, though. She didn’t ask me for my opinion. But when she decided to promote gender reassignment surgery in the media as a happy triumph, she ended up getting my attention, anyhow. Because I care about you, too, and your families.
So, here it is. One psychiatrist’s prescription, sure to cost me a lot of hate mail, but reward me with the certainty that I am stating what I believe to be true and that I am doing my job: If you care about your kids, don’t let them watch “Dancing with the Stars” starring Chaz Bono.